Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Seven requirements for parents of adolescent boys

Legionary of Christ Father Michael Sliney, as interviewd by Zenit.org,  suggests the following seven necessities for parents of adolescent boys:

  1. Clear guidelines with reasonable consequences from a unified front; cutting slack but also holding boys accountable for their actions.

  2. Reasonable explanations for the criteria, guidelines and decisions made by parents. 

  3. Avoiding hyper-analysis of boys' emotions and states of mind: avoiding "taking their temperature" too often. 

  4. Unconditional love with an emphasis on character and effort more than outcome: Encourage boys to live up to their potential while having reasonable expectations. To love them regardless of whether they make it into Harvard or become a star quarterback. 

  5. Authenticity, faith and fidelity should be reflected in parent's lifestyles. 

  6. Qualities of a dad: Manliness, temperance, making significant time for family, putting aside work, and being a reliable source of guidance. 

  7. Qualities of a mom: Emotional stability, selflessness, loving service and extreme patience.